Quitting Your Boss: A Guide to Leaving with Grace and DignityBy Maurilio Amorim
I have had several jobs in my lifetime and have owned a few businesses. One constant is that people leave their jobs all the time for various reasons. But sometimes we quit our jobs not because we don't enjoy the work or want to pursue a different direction in life.
Often we don't quit our jobs. We quit our boss.
I had a job I once loved and excelled at. It was the one job I was uniquely gifted in doing - the perfect fit for my skills, temperament, and experience.
But I knew staying in the position much longer would turn a job I loved into something I dreaded. Worse, it would negatively affect my relationship with God since I was part of a faith-based organization.
Leaving, however, is not the main issue. How you leave a job can make a significant difference in your life's trajectory.
So, if you're ready to leave your boss, here are a few things to consider:
1. Write it down. Consider your reasoning, timeline, and tone, and thoughtfully craft a resignation letter. Sleep on it. Gaining perspective is invaluable.
2. Seek advice from a trusted friend. Share your letter and thoughts with someone you trust who has experience in the business world.
3. Be honest yet kind. While it's important not to sugarcoat your reasons, avoid letting your emotions take over. Burning bridges unnecessarily can be detrimental.
4. Be specific with your examples. Refrain from using phrases like "you always" or "you never." Overgeneralizations can weaken your legitimate arguments.
5. If you anticipate trouble from your boss, bring a supportive person to the meeting. People often behave differently when they know they're being observed.
6. Stay composed by speaking at a low and slow pace when discussing your decision. You can't control others' reactions, but you have complete control over your behavior.
7. Practice grace. If your boss apologizes, accept their apology. Forgiving someone doesn't negate the impact of their actions, but it paves the way for growth and healing.
Leaving a job, particularly when it's due to issues with your boss, can be a challenging and emotional experience. However, approaching the situation with thoughtfulness, honesty, and grace can positively impact your life's trajectory.
Remember to seek advice from trusted friends, be specific in your communication, and maintain your composure throughout the process.
Ultimately, how you leave a job can serve as a testament to your character and resilience, paving the way for new opportunities and personal growth. Embrace the change with confidence and courage, knowing you are taking control of your life and moving forward to a brighter future.